I oftentimes ask myself, "Why me?" when bad things happen for no apparent reason. As usual, the Church provides a edifying reason to this very question through the Serbian saint known as "Serbia's New Chrysostom" ("golden-mouthed") for his eloquent sermons and theology...St. Nikolai Velimirovic. His amazing two volume spiritual masterpiece, "The Prologue", is a worthwhile purchase; a true spiritual gem. A disciple of St Nikolai--the Bishop of Montenegro Amphilocije Radovich--once said that the only two books one needs to digest and put into practice to obtain salvation are the Bible and The Prologue of Ochrid--a very strong endorsement, indeed!
Here is St. Nikolai's answer to "Why me?" (the September 16/29 reading) from "The Prologue of Ohrid":
"Often unexpected misfortune befalls us, and in vain we ask 'why?' The Church of Christ alone knows how to explain the cause of every misfortune. The Church basically classifies misfortunes into two groups. Some misfortunes befall the sinner because of old, unrepented sins. Other misfortunes assault the righteous and serve, according to the words of St. John Chrysostom, 'as a means of receiving a wreath, as was the case with Lazarus and Job.' The Empress Eudocia secretly agreed with the Eutychian heresy, having heeded the counsel of the perfidious eunuch Chrysaphius. But misfortune unexpectedly befell her. One day her husband, Emperor Theodosius, brought her an apple of unusual size. The empress sent the apple to the ailing senator Paulinus and he, out of love for the emperor, sent this same apple to Emperor Theodosius. This gave the emperor reason to suspect an illicit relationship between his wife and the senator. The emperor asked his wife to show him the apple he had given her. The empress lied and said: 'I ate it!' This made the emperor's suspicion even stronger, and he banished Eudocia to Palestine. In time Eudocia cured herself of heresy, and through the counsels of the great Palestinian spiritual fathers returned completely to Orthodoxy. The misfortune that befell the empress did not arise from an illicit relationship with Paulinus--in this, she was completely innocent--but because of her heretical disposition. A second but different case: When he was still a military commander, the future Emperor Marcian was traveling near Philipopolis and saw the corpse of a murdered man on the road. Out of pure compassion, he got off his horse and started to bury the corpse. Just then someone came by and saw him burying the corpse, and reported him to the court as a murderer. Marcian would have been punished by death, had God not shortly revealed the true murderer. This kind of misfortune falls into that second category--'for the receiving of a wreath.' Shortly after this, General Marcian was chosen to be emperor."